your feelings about Declan.

[Aude]

I just wanted to say that I agree with Kim...

I think many people say they "love" Declan because they see in him a kind of ideal. He might embody the perfect friend or boyfriend for certain persons. And I agree with Kim it's harmless to fantasize over this ideal through a real person... at least as long as you don't mistake dreams for reality and hurt this person, or forget to live and hurt yourself.

At our own and common levels, we might have lived what Declan lives once in our life. Have you never been in a situation when a person saw in you what she/he wanted to see... and not the real you ? Have you never had the feeling a person "loved" you for your talents, or your kindness, or your look... or some other reason... but not your all inner being, because indeed she/he did not really know you ? And indeed sometimes because she didn't want to really know you, prefering to love his/her ideal person through you until you shatter the dream by doing something that wasn't to his/her taste? I did. And what I felt for those persons who fantasized over me was just compassion. Because I knew they followed a hopeless quest, as long as they would not understand what they were searching for was inside them. I did not feel guilty. But that makes me felt very alone in a way.

I cannot really imagine being in Declan's situation. I just know I wouldn't exchange my place for his...
And concerning his grilfriend... from what I know, the person my loved ones choose were always very different from what I had envisionned for them. So, the future will tell, but you might be surprised by Declan's choice. But this is not important, what counts is that this person will be the person he would have chosen. I don't really see Declan with someone from a upper strata of the society... but that will be up to him. I never really thought about it, but I think I just see him with someone as strong as him. Someone who will not live her life by substitute through him. But after all... I don't know him at all. So he might want something else.

Well, all that just to say : I hope that people who are longing for Declan will find what they're searching for. It's true that Declan seems an adorable person. But you don't really know him (who can say that he/she knows someone anyway?). The world is full of very kind and adorable persons whith whom you can have a very deeper relationship. To whom you can write everyday or called for hours... sharing a true friendship with. Just open your heart and take great care of the persons you are with. Everybody deserve to be with someone who really care about them, and only see them as the most important being in the world.

[jasmine_in_the_dark]

But love is everlasting.

Even powerful love can fade. Nothing is forever
Yes, I agree with what Kim and you said but there's one thing I want to share with you. I was in love and I thought it was true, beautiful love but I was totally wrong. It took me a long time to mend my broken heart. I don't want any real person break my heart again so I put my love on Declan. He never stand by my side but at least he'll never break my heart

[Dark Avanger]

Well it depends on what kind of love. True love is everlasting. One-sided, maybe but usually not.Whatever it is love is more lasting than infactuation.

[Kimberlee]

I'm sorry that you had to deal with a broken heart Jasmine. I've been in that place myself. Even though you may not agree with me right now, you will heal - not forget - but heal. Give it time.

[Aude]

Jasmine... someone also broke my heart. And when I cried, it was over my lost illusions. He betrayed me and I could reproach him many things. Anger could have tainted me so I forced myself to forgive him. And working to keep nice thoughts about him made me stronger and better each day. If I could forgive him it was because I truly loved him. Even now, I can tell that I will always love him, though I'm not in love with him anymore and don't really want to see him again. That's what is true love. Everlasting. Stronger than anything else. Making you feel clean and pure even in the worse situations. Washing away your bad feelings and thoughts. Pushing you always higher and forward. True love might sometimes be one-sided, but that's not important at all. Because I think what is important with true love is to give it and not to receive it. It's feeling it and giving it that make you feel good and warm. After a betrayal, it takes time to be ready to trust again, that's normal. But please my friend, remember that even if an unreal being like Declan will never break your heart... he will never love you as well... Don't let your fear ruin your precious life. Or this love story would have truly meant nothing... try to see what was good in that man and what that relationship brought you. How it made you a different person. What is the point in staying a victim ? Of staying unhappy ? What better "revenge" could you have on fate than being happy ?

[jasmine_in_the_dark]

I just want to say THANK YOU to Kim and Aude. You two are very very nice. Reading your posts almost made me cry. I realize that I haven't forgotten him completely. Whenever his familliar face, warm smile and his funny actions suddenly appear in my mind, they make me feel a little sad. Time may be a effective remedy for my heart.
Once again, I do thank you, Aude. You, a very nice girl, deserve to be happy. Eros will definitely give you the best man you deserve someday .

[remyboxoplenty]

i hope everyone on earth finds that special person. it must be such a wonderful feeling to be with that one person you know loves you entirely for everything you are, and even everything you are not. and that you feel that exact same way for them. true love can be so rare in this world, and it brightens my heart to just see it when it does happen. one of the things i hope most for in my life is that everyone i love will one day come to find that person, and that they will remain together forever. that would make me the happiest person in the world, even if the day never comes where i meet my special person. unrequited love is one of the hardest things someone can go through. it gives you emotions you never thought you could feel. you understand why the relationship won't and can't work, but your heart can't seem to comprehend the concept. the crazy thing is, that as much as the pain hurts us, we'd rather feel it because if we did not, it would mean we no longer loved the person, and the thought of not loving that person bothers us even more. but when we are in a situation like this, the thing we must not do is hold on to those unreturned emotions. we must let them go, and tell our hearts that it was just not meant to be, and hope that we will find whom our love is truly meant to be shared with, some day.

[coffeeshawtee]

Well... I really don't know what to say about that.
Of course I love Declan, but I can't have any "fantasies" (as you mentioned) about him when I've never seen him (especially in real life).
I think this question is a bit... Not to offend anyone, but creepy.
He definitely is not the only guy in the world that's handsome or has a great singing voice (with rockin' hair )
You don't want to really lower yourself to the obssesive stage of, "I want to marry him and have his kids" sorta thing.
But, you can always do what you want. So what am I talking about? I have no right stopping you.

Just breathe and relax,
I bet this topic could maybe make Declan feel uneasy or guilty.
But again I don't know him, and I definitely cannot judge him, maybe he likes this topic because it's a bit "emotional" lol

You know you don't have to give up though, right ladies?

-- double-post merged 20 Feb 2010, 12:30 --

I agree, Ewelyne. I admit, somewhat ashamedly, I hold quite the infatuation for Declan. I can't help it, but it isn't at all upsetting to me that he doesn't and more than likely never will feel the same about me. I just enjoy admiring him from afar, as the saying goes.

The broken heart should be saved for true love lost; that's my opinion.

Agreed, save it for the man you know in real life. Though I'm not sure quite what the word "infatuation" means I'm pretty sure it has something to do with liking someone...? Oh well haha Be head strong

[R0BiN.H€MM€LM@NN]

At the first time in my whole life.. I AM HAPPY TO BE A BOY!!
Because I just like him very much I haven't ever loved him and my heart hasn't ever been broken because of him, so ladys....
I'm sorry for everybody whose heart has been broken because of him.
But you know, it isn't his fault and so far we all know Declan he never would hurt someone ...

Greetings.. <3

PS: Boys? We're lucky.. sry ladys I'm honest

[max256]

I hope he knows he's an indigo person. And hope you all know that aswell Piese and love to all of you!!

[encarta1093]

i like declan a lot,i admire him in different ways, i do really love his voice, and i love him as a friend and because of that i will do anything i can to support him but being a fan,i know exactly where to place my self..i just knew him through internet(this form, and etc.)but i didnt meet him in person yet...hopefully,i want to meet him...

[Aude]

Are you by any chance referring to Nancy Tappe's concept of indigo children Max ? For if you do, I don't think the description fits Declan so well. Moreover I've never been too fond of categorizing people... whatever the form it can take. But I understand what you mean. And I think everyone here is quite aware that Declan is a luminous being (at least I am). Lots of love to you too.

[Ever dream]

about Declan
I know Declan
because my sister tell me 。a English song
Song name is <tell me why>
then I know Declan
I think Declan is a Gentle boy

[angel1995]

I think that Declan is a very sexy boy I fall in love with him
If I had met him I would have said that I fall in love with him
I hope that he is not so nasty to if I say that to him
Declan baby I love you so much

[joanna yin]

I heard Declan's voice with a mp3 several years ago when I was in high shool.But I didn't know him very much that time and never heard him again since then.Recently I saw him on computer again.Last time I was deeply touched by his total clear voice and this time I am lost deeper in his sunny smile,which makes my heart open.Although I have seen him for less then one week ,I feel happy from my deep soul everytime I saw him on his concert or show on computer.I do make fantacy with him recently as I really love his smiles,his perspective attitude towards life ,etc.But I soon realize I am several years older than him and of course we are so far away from each other.But I think ，even though the God give birth to me earlier than him ,I can still become his friend or even an elder sister to care and love him .I think ,to me ,Dec is not totally a model,or somebody I appreciate .He is not untouchable ,too.In fact,I treat him as one of my best friend and even a soulmate no matter he knows me or not,no matter how long I've known about him.I do believe we share some qualities to life and the destiny will make me meet him someday.I am of great enjoy when I find here and I think our love and understanding will be the forever tache between Declan and us.